After I completed step 3 and got blown out by 15 girls, I spent the next month doing a lot of reading. Hence the reasons for steps 4 and 5. After reading these books, I felt I had a good idea of what I was doing right and what I was doing wrong. I wanted to go out and try again.
I joined a local sports/social scene where people play kickball and then hit the bars later. I got a girls number from my team relatively easily. But this is not the story I want to tell.
I put on a ridiculous beer costume, walked out onto the street and said, “I have no idea what I’m going to do, but I’m going to find something and just do it”. Within seconds I approach a group and talk to the guy. They ask me if I’m going to this frat party around the corner. I said yes. ….So now I’m going to a frat party.
I walk in and it’s a typical college frat party. Natty lite, etc. It’s very easy to approach people because everyone is wearing costumes which is a natural conversation starter. I talk to half a dozen girls and my conversations are going great. I realize that I enter into this awesome ‘frame of mind’ …Like …I felt awesome and that I believed I genuinely was a boss at being social. It’s difficult to explain, but it’s kind of like a high. You can approach anyone and just feel great regardless of what happens.
The party gets busted by the cops.
I walk out onto the street and I realize my night is not over. I feel amazing and I’m going to continue having fun.
I see two really cute girls walking towards me on the sidewalk. I approach them in my beer costume and ask them for directions in my fake (but authentic sounding Irish accent). They give me directions, but the directions were wrong so I call them out on it and say I’m actually “an employee of the school tasked with testing freshman on giving directions to random strangers” …I talk with these two girls for an hour and get their numbers.
I schedule a date with the one I was interested in.
The date was a lot of fun. Went to get ice cream, then walked along the waterfront in my city, and ended up at the roof of a popular building with a great view. It is there that I kissed her.
Though we agreed nothing was going to come of it, it felt great to have my first real success no more than a month after starting my change.Tweet