I was watching The Matrix the other day, and there’s this scene where Neo is going through a number of training programs. In this one particular training program, Neo must leap from one building to another. Morpheus tries to convince Neo that he can accomplish this seemingly impossible jump with the following quote.
You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear, doubt, and disbelief. Free your mind.
It just occurred to me how applicable this is to when I go out to socialize. If you want to go out, talk to girls, make friends, etc, then you really have to let all the fear, doubt, and disbelief go. There is nothing to be afraid of. There is no reason to doubt yourself. And there certainly is no good reason to disbelieve that you can approach someone you’re attracted to. The only thing holding you back is your own mind. Social anxiety is the dream world. The Matrix. When you let all of that go…when you learn to give 0 fucks about what other people think of you, you will have been unplugged and can live in your own reality. This is why I can walk into the middle of a dance floor where nobody is dancing, and dance alone like a total fool by myself. Free your mind and give that a try. Consider that your “leap”. People will stare. But seriously, who cares? If you give 0 fucks, none of that will matter. Like Neo, you will probably fail the first time. That’s to be expected. It takes practice and perseverance to free your mind.
Found the clip on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nm1gbMhYDYTweet