Step 2: How to Talk to Anyone

 

I was surprised to find out how many people simply do not know how to talk to others. It seems like a basic, necessary function used in every day life, but to be able to talk to complete strangers is easier said than done. Find a book on conversation and talking to people. I read this one: [1] How To Talk to Anyone.

Dale Carnegie’s classic, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” is also highly recommended. In either case, it’s crucial to read one of these. Even though I was FA, I still felt I was a decent conversationalist, but you’d be surprised how you can pick up a few good tidbits that can make a difference.

For example, instead of saying “What work do you do?”, say, “How do you spend most of your time?” …Because, what if they’re unemployed? Conversation over? Always give the person you’re talking to a way out.

Someone says, “Where are you from?” …Do you respond with just a location and that’s it? A lot of people do, and the conversation can be boring and laborious. Say some interesting fact about your home town, “Long Island, home of Billy Joel and 7-11s” …or “Long Island, but I had to leave that place because there were 10 guys for every girl.” …All depending on context and situation.

Do not be a stubborn, know-it-all. Assume you know nothing and start fresh. Rid yourself of the bad habits and begin with a clean slate. Pick up one of these books and read it. Become a more confident conversationalist.

  One Response to “Step 2: How to Talk to Anyone”

  1. should be “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” not enemies, of course

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